Today's Ramble...... Alts.

     My friend Corinda recently wrote about the subject of alts on her blog, and that set me to thinking.  All of her points were very valid, and I think need to be reiterated here, and, knowing me, I'll add my own two cents worth. LOL!
     She made mention of the fact that the majority of us do NOT use them maliciously, and that those that do, are toxic in their main personalities as well.  Excellent point.  I am a known Sybil-type personality.  I have three known alts.... Tel, my "main"... Gany, who was created as a "model" originally for my av styling biz, then took on a personality of his own, and Sidd, my female, who was originally an experiment, to see if I could make a good female AV, and a way to hide from people.  She is sexless, although partnered to the female alt of one of my best friends, now absent from SL for over three months, who used his to hide, too, when "she" dj'd.  We did that just to add to the "reality" of their existence.  Cross-gender alts are the main subject of this post.
     I know several people that use cross-gender alts for various reasons.  RP is one.  One of my best buddies on here is actually female, but plays one HELL of a mean pirate dude.  One of them is male, and has a female that he uses for MM boards, just for fun, and to poke a little fun at the guys that are always hitting on EVERY  female that comes along.  "Asshats and Idiots" as he says.  It's all in good fun, and he NEVER, being heterosexual himself, "sleeps" with them.  I have one straight friend on here, who is so bashful that he can't even approach women sexually in SL.  He has a female alt, too.  I'll let you figger the rest of THAT one out on your own.  *grins*  His business, and no one gets hurt.
     As a gay man, I understand the attraction that some feel for heterosexual men, but it is WRONG on SO many levels to pose as a female on SL, just to get laid.  Taking advantage of others is never a good thing, nor is it productive in the long run.   If you can't get any as a man, then look for the reasons for that.  You cannot hide as a female, have sex with the guys, then feel good about yourself.  Just don't see how.  I recently unfriended someone when I found out that they were doing this to people, after a heated discussion.  I take this very personally, because a dear dear friend of mine LEFT SL because his "girlfriend" turned out to be a man posing.  While there are some that, I'm sure, use the female guise on SL as kind of a way of "testing the waters" before a RL transformation, which is all well and good, you really should let people know, if it goes into something resembling a relationship.  My friend would have been fine if he'd known, he says.  The av that he was involved with "felt" female to him.
     Point is, I think, friends, is that some straight people have a hard time wrapping their minds around the whole "gender identity" issue that some gay people deal with.  We've worked SO very hard for the last 40yrs or so to be accepted and understood, at times even welcomed as who and what we are.  This type of behavior, though, can set us back.  WAY back.
     Well, just my personal ramblings while still hurting from losing two friends over this issue.  Sometimes, it just helps to flush the shit into the blog sewer, and let it drift away.

 *Peace and love, y'all*
            Tel








  (btw, my two unknown alts are for specific reasons.... one is totally undevelopped, and is my "banker" to keep me from too much impulse spending...lol.... the other?  A long unused Furry.  Hasn't even been on since probably April, '09.)