This is chilling to the soul.... but must be shared.

     A friend of mine posted this story on Facebook.  Please read this.  If it doesn't make you upset, you are not a human being.  It is the story of an elderly gay couple that the state of California seperated, sold their possessions, and kept apart for the final three months of one of them's lives.  I don't know if I want to cry or punch a wall.  I DO know that I will try to contact this gentleman through his attorneys, and offer the only thing that I can, my moral and emotional support. 

This  happened several years ago to my "gay parents"..... after Roger developed cancer, Tom, his lover of almost 40 yrs, was not allowed to visit him in the nursing home, because Roger's Pentecostal sister put him on a "proscribed visitor list", in order to try and "save Roger's soul."    Tom fought it in court, until the day that Roger finally passed.  Having no family of his own in this country, Tom tried to sell the mobile home that he and Roger lived in, so he could return to England, after all these years in America.(As a legal citizen,btw)  They had met while both were in their respective country's militaries at the end of WWII.  Roger's sister, who HAD at least let Tom continue to live there, but knew that while Tom owned the small plot of land, Roger had owned the dwelling.  She sold it right out from under him, to keep him from getting any money out of it, "because they had used it for their sinful lifestyle". That is a direct quote.  I was there that day.  Tom sold the small plot of land for next to nothing (this was in the early 80's, and land in that part of Kentucky was very inexpensive), and those of us that were friends of his got the money together so he could "go home", but he was murdered, during a robbery at the home where he was staying with other friends who had taken him in before he could leave the country.  Tom was almost 80 yrs. old.  The robber killed him, he said in court, "because all fags deserve to be dead."  He did NOT get the death sentence, but just a life sentence.

Tom was a veteran.  He was an American citizen BY CHOICE, which to me says alot.  He gave up his homeland, his family, and his military career to BE with Roger.  They had one of the strongest, most loving relationships that I've ever seen, and had lasted FAR longer than most of the "god fearing, straight couples" that I knew.  They went to Mass every weekend, owned a home, had dogs for kids...(and those of us that they "adopted" and helped us to "become comfortable with being gay").   Our legal system sided with that maniacal Jesus Freak sister of his dead partner's. When I saw this article, I relived those painful months all over again.

No matter where, who,what orientation, whatever...... this is just WRONG!!!!  I have a dear friend who's mother and father have been together for over 45 yrs now, and never married.  This is NOT just a gay issue, but could also apply to their situation, though highly unlikely in this backward-ass society we have here.  Get strong, people, and get ACTIVE!  Write your congresspersons, your local politicians.... join anti-hate groups... just do SOMETHING, even if it's just one small thing daily.  I love you all!


 Clay and his partner of 20 years, Harold, lived in California. Clay and Harold made diligent efforts to protect their legal rights, and had their legal paperwork in place--wills, powers of attorney, and medical directives, all naming each other. Harold was 88 years old and in frail medical condition, but still living at home with Clay, 77, who was in good health.  (Click this to read the full story, please.) 


*Peace*
    Tel